Where Did Cain Get His Wife?

Where Did Cain Get His Wife?

The short answer is: He got her from the same pool of prospective marital candidates from which we get our wives and husbands—from the children of Adam and Eve. The Bible is clear. Adam was the progenitor of the human race (Rom. 5:12-14), and Eve was “the mother of all living” (Gen. 3:20) No human being has been produced who was not a son of Adam or daughter of Eve.

But 6,000 years later, this may confuse us. Haven’t we been rightly taught that incest is repulsive? After all, who in his right mind would think of marrying his sister! For we know the danger of marrying close relatives. Close relatives are more likely to carry the same genetic flaws as we. Marriage thereby increases the odds of passing those weaknesses onto our children as birth defects and other genetic disorders. Most of us are aware of the joint and skin problems of designer dogs inbred too closely. But similar problems arise in human families. One well-known genetic disease that circulated among European royalty in the 19th century, through marriages between first cousins, was hemophilia.

Cain, of course, had no need to be concerned about these issues. For one thing, the gene pool hadn’t had time to decay as it has since then. Nor was there was a specific commandment from God forbidding marriage between close relatives. In fact, most of the patriarchs married close relatives. Abram married his half-sister Sarai. Isaac and Jacob married their cousins. It wasn’t until God gave the Law to Israel that taboos against incest were enacted, to safeguard his people against birth defects (the gene pool having rapidly degraded by this time) and protect from adopting the immoral practices of their pagan neighbors.

So Cain married his sister. Genesis 5:4 says in addition to Cain and later Seth, Adam and Eve had many other children. Jewish tradition says Eve bore Adam 23 children. Of course, she had longer to do so than mothers today. If Adam lived 930 years, Eve likely lived a long life as well, giving her hundreds of years to raise children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, and…you get the point.

The Bible proceeds to trace  seven generations of Cain’s family (Gen. 4:16-24), many of whom were very successful in their careers. Jabal became a wealthy businessman making tents and raising livestock. Jubal was the father of all who compose music and craft musical instruments. Tubal-Cain made everyone’s life more comfortable by developing the technology of forging bronze and iron. But it was not a happy family. Moses, author of Genesis, picks two representatives of the lines of Cain and Seth to exemplify the quality of their family life. Enoch, the seventh from Adam through Seth, walked with God and was taken to heaven without dying because his life pleased God (Gen. 5:24; Heb. 11:5). But of Cain’s family, nothing is said about their love for God, for they had none. Instead, we’re told that Lamech, the seventh from Adam through Cain, took two wives (the first polygamist), murdered a young man for wounding him, and boasted that if Cain is avenged seven times, then “Lamech is avenged 77 times.”

Quite a little family! Wouldn’t you say? Maybe it would have been better for everyone if Cain had not been able to find a woman willing to marry him.

11 responses to “Where Did Cain Get His Wife?

  1. Your very last sentence, “Maybe it would have been better for everyone if Cain had not been able to find a woman willing to marry him” makes me wonder this: if Cain could so easily murder his brother, and walked away from it without remorse, then maybe the sister he chose wasn’t willing, maybe she was told to go by her mother, out of compassion for her oldest son. So my thought is Cain had a loss of love for another’s life, and may have demanded this one sister.

    • Thanks for your thoughtful comment, Lisa! I wouldn’t put anything past Cain. In fact, the lust you describe was clearly evident in the line of Cain. Lamech is set forth as the truest representative of Cain’s kids, and he took two wives based on physical beauty alone. It wouldn’t surprise me if there was physical force and marital abuse involved in those relationships. It’s also possible that his parents didn’t want him to be alone and gave their permission for him to take one of their girls. What a long way they traveled from paradise in one generation! Talk about sad!

  2. Cains wife could have come from one of his ribs,like Eve came from Adams.She would have been made full grown, with the appearance of age, like Adam and Eve, and all creation was, Also what about Melchizedek? Hebrews 7:3 says he had no father or mother and no genealogy.

  3. Lots two daughters got there father drunk, and had sex with him and both became pregnant, and there was no punishment, but there sons descendants became the Moabites and the Ammonites, bitter enemies to Abrahams descendants. King David son Amnon forced himself on his virgin sister Tamar, she said don’t do this wicked thing, such a thing should not be done in Israel!Then Absalom, Amnon brother had him killed for what he did to there sister Tamar.

  4. One more thing that blows my mind is Eve, the wife of Adam who was the first female or woman to ever exists, ever!Adam was made in Gods image, or in the image of the Sons of God, or Angels.Genesis 6:1-4 says the Sons of God or Angels look down from heaven at the daughters of man, and saw that they were beautiful, and came down and took them as wives, the reason they did this is because there was not any female Angels in heaven, but now there is because of Godly woman who have died and gone to heaven.

  5. Zechariah 5:9 says, I looked up and before me were two women, with the wind in their wings!They had wings like those of a stork, and they lifted up the basket between heaven and earth. Female Angels?

  6. While we are on the subject of marriage,and wife’s, there is a lot of discussion and debates about Jesus having a wife, and they have recently discovered some Dead Sea scroll fragment supposedly that suggest he did.I would like say that the only way Jesus could have had a wife, is that she would have had to be supernatural conceived like Jesus, or come from one of his ribs like Eve came from Adams. The reason is, Jesus came from the perfect seed of the Holy Spirit, and he lived a sinless life, not from the imperfect seed of Adam, if Jesus took a wife from the imperfect seed of Adam and became one with her, or one flesh, he would have been defiled, and God would have rejected his sacrifice at the cross

    • The reason I know Jesus never married is because He already has a Bride – the Church! Ephesians 5 says He died for Her and Revelation 19 says He is returning with Her for the Great Marriage Supper of the Lamb. Besides, having another wife would make Jesus a polygamist, and the Lord Jesus is not a polygamist.

  7. why is this so white washed? these were not white people in the desert looking pale. Most of the patriarchs were black. Jesus was black. Paul was black but yet all the pictures of ancient egypt, africa and the middle east are all white. Factually incorrect.

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